My daughter is in 5th grade, and a couple of months ago on our way home from school, informed me that she had a permission slip in her backpack that I needed to sign.
“No problem,” I said. “What’s it for?”
After a short pause she said to me, “They are going to start separating the boys and the girls so we can learn about the different body parts and stuff.”
For me, this was the moment I had looked forward to for two years! The reason? My daughter has refused to let me talk about the birds, the bees or even pimples without the slightest “Bleh, gross, Mom!!” I was delighted to hear that she would be forced to listen to her teacher about it.
I responded with a simply, “Ok”. Needless to say, my daughter was NOT PLEASED with my response.
“I DON’T WANT TO LEARN ABOUT THAT STUFF,” my daughter said.
“Why not?” I asked.
“Because its gross, and I don’t want to talk about it anymore!”
“Well, it’s important information for you to know,” I replied. “You don’t want to talk to me about it, so at least I know you’ll learn something about it from school. I’m signing the form.”
That’s when the shouting commenced and the daggers shot out of her eyes in the direction of the driver’s seat. What a fun ride home — NOT!
She eventually calmed down. I signed the sheet when we got home, against her wishes, returned the permission slip to her homework folder and placed it in her backpack. I also informed her that I was going to email her teacher, if she decided not to turn the slip. Boy did THAT make her mad!
Remember a while back when I re-blogged a blog about where babies come from? Well, it’s a good one, so here it is again:
There are few tips that I would like to offer the parents out there who are soon to be in the same shoes as me:
- Don’t force your kids to talk about anything that is going to make them uncomfortable.
- Don’t ignore your kids requests when they do start to ask you questions.
- Let them know that you’re available to talk about this, and anything else, should they feel the need to talk to you. This goes for everything, not just puberty.
Until the next awkward conversation begins…