One day in November 2014
MOTHER picks DAUGHTER up from school. DAUGHTER gets into the car. MOTHER pulls onto major interstate to head home, and begins traveling about 70 MPH. After the standard “How was your day” conversation, DAUGHTER proceeds to ask MOTHER a question in a very calm, but inquisitive way.
“Mom, how do you know if someone likes you?”
MOTHER continues to drive carefully along the major roadway, keeping her eyes on the road and tries not to run off the road. MOTHER also is thinking to herself, “Lord I am not ready for this conversation, but here goes.”
“Um…it depends,” I respond. “Do you think someone likes you?”
MOTHER is thinking, “Please say no, PLEASE say no!”
“Well, there’s this boy named Michael (changed to protect his identity). He’s in a couple of my classes. He has this bendy eraser on the end of his pencil. Today he shaped it into a heart and showed it to me. I think he might like me.”
(Remains calm and continues to focus straight ahead on the road, hands at “10 and 2” on the steering wheel.)
“I think that’s very sweet of him. Sounds to me like he does like you.”
Immediately starts to blush and hides her face in her coat.
Do you remember your first crush? I remember mine, and I’m pretty sure my daughter has read my circa 1989 diary entry about him. Now, let’s fast forward to two weeks ago.
Monday, Feb. 2
MOTHER pulls up to DAUGHTER’s school. DAUGHTER opens passenger back door, throws backpack into the backseat and shuts door. DAUGHTER climbs into front seat. Shuts door.
“Hey babe, how was school today?”
“It was ok.”
“Just okay? Did something happen?”
“Michael didn’t speak to me all day.”
(Trying not to LOL)
“I’m sorry to hear that. Did something happen?”
“I don’t know! He didn’t speak to me on Friday, but he asked me to play touch football with him and his friends after school. Then today…NOTHING!”
“Well, it’s probably nothing you did or didn’t do. Boys are really silly sometimes. If it really bothers you, then you need to talk to him about it tomorrow.”
“I don’t know. I’ll think about it.”
The next day, still no word from Michael. MOTHER has to work late so GRANDMA picks DAUGHTER up from school. They talk about the “Michael Situation” and GRANDMA then coaches DAUGHTER through the composition of an email and hits SEND. MOTHER learns about the email when she gets home from work and praised DAUGHTER for reaching out to Michael about a situation that bothered her. DAUGHTER begins to feel her email was a little harsh, so the next day at SCHOOL, again, after three days of no conversations between her and Michael, she walks up to him at his locker, like a boss I’m sure, and says:
“Sorry for sending such a harsh email.”
“That’s ok. I probably deserved it.”
Then everything was fine in the world again. They are back to their normal, happy “I’ll wait for you after class and walk in the hallway together” relationship. She never got an answer about why he ignored her for three days, but they are teenagers after all. They crack me up I tell you!
My daughter knows that she’s not allowed to date until she’s at least 15, so the next two years could be REALLY interesting. I’m just glad that she and I have a good enough relationship that she can tell me stuff about boys. If she knows I wrote this post, that might change, but she doesn’t know the web address. 🙂
Got any fun stories about your teen years?