Last week, I had an “I’m ready to put myself back on the market,” thought. So, I did what most single women my age do—I created a profile on a popular dating app—Tinder.
YAY! Let the left and right swiping begin!
Within the first 48 hours, I deleted my profile AND the app completely off my phone.
Because I opted not to use Christian Mingle or eHarmony first, because of the cost, I made sure my Tinder profile was very clear about my intentions:
“Please only swipe right if you’re a Christian. My faith is super important to me, and want a partner who can be a spiritual leader in our home. I am NOT looking for a hook up.”
Naturally, when I got a notification of a new message from “Barry,” I got a little excited, until I read his message to me:
“I’m sure you’re a great catch and all, but organized religion is for weak minds.“
“Excuse me?” I thought to myself.
I was appalled and immediately felt the need to protect my mental strength, my religious beliefs and my church, who taught me a lot about what I had learned and believed to be true about God.
“All I said was ‘I was a Christian looking for another Christian,” I thought to myself. “How in the world does this make me weak-minded?”
Instead of potentially picking a virtual fight with “Barry”, I took the high road—UNMATCHED.
Now that I think about it, I should have picked his brain a little, because I’m curious about why he swiped right when he obviously read my profile, knew that I was a Christian and merely wanted to pick a fight with me.
At Woodcrest, we believe “there is one true, powerful God who manifests Himself in three distinct ways as Father, Son and Holy Spirit, each possessing the equal and full attributes of deity. God created the world from nothing, sustains it according to His desire, and has operated throughout history to reclaim His world and to reconcile mankind into a personal relationship with Himself.”
“Does believing this make me weak-minded?”
While “the scripture commands that believers gather together for worship, teaching, fellowship, communion, baptism, and to devote themselves to the work of God in the world,” I don’t feel obligated or pressured by anyone at my church, or even God for that matter, to physically attend a service, sing along to the worship music or devote my life to Christ.
When I think of “organized religion,” I think more along the lines of the Branch Davidians or Heaven’s Gate, not Woodcrest Chapel. I feel like those people were brainwashed into believing in something or someone and not what the Bible teaches us.
Am I weak-minded because I believe “Every word of God proves true. He is a shield to all who come to him for protection.” —Proverbs 30:5 says.
Maybe “Barry” doesn’t believe in the word of God, but because I do, does that make me weak-minded?
Am I weak-minded because I’m teaching my daughter that no matter what, God will always love her in spite of how she feels about herself or when she doesn’t feel love from others?
Am I weak-minded because the things I’ve learned through the church and throughout my own spiritual journey make me stronger and more empowered to do life than I ever have before?
Am I weak-minded because I can proudly say I love the Lord, and loving him brings me a sense of peace and comfort?
1 John 2:5 (NLT) says “But those who obey God’s word truly show how completely they love him. That is how we know we are living in Him.”
Maybe these are the kind of things that “Barry” wanted to talk about. He obviously assumes that all Christians are “weak minded,” but he hasn’t met me! I feel like my faith and believe in God has made me stronger than ever, and if I had to choose a life with Christ and a life without, I definitely choose WITH, because I know what kind of person I am WITHOUT, and I don’t want to be that person anymore.
Maybe when I’m ready again, I should go ahead and pay the fees associated with Christian Mingle or eHarmony (or Farmer’s Only for those of my friends who have suggested it – HA!).